Gender and Sexuality: Male vs Female Sexuality

How gender differences can affect your relationship

It's been said that men from Venus – an idea that, in spite of progress, largely still rings true when considering the complexities of gender and sexuality.  No matter how much has changed since the sexual revolution – allowing both genders to enjoy equality in ways that excite them both inside and outside of the bedroom – plenty of distinctions remain.

That doesn’t have to be a bad thing – far from it, in fact. Here’s how to not only accept the differences in each other but embrace and celebrate them to help take your relationship to the next level.

Synchronize your sex drive schedules

No surprise here: Research finds that men tend to have stronger sex drives than women, and therefore initiate physical intimacy more often. Of course, it feels good when your man wants you, but it can also be a lot of pressure if a woman’s not always eager to go.

To ensure differences in desire don’t become an issue, experts suggest discussing needs and compromising as much as possible. If, say, he wants it once a day and she wants it once a week, aim for every other day. A little give and take go a long way to keep both parties happy.

Foreplay and lubricants

Men also tend to become more easily aroused than women. If she’s not feeling the excitement or getting caught up in the heat of the moment quite as quickly, having plenty of foreplay can work wonders, as can exploring over-the-counter lubricants with sensation or tingling properties.

Most women tend to connect sex with a close relationship and crave more emotional intimacy than men.

Add some romance

Most women tend to connect sex with a close relationship and crave more emotional intimacy than men. Maintaining those deeper connections doesn’t have to mean forcing guys to light candles, draw bubble baths or bring home giant bouquets of flowers.

Some strategies relationship experts recommend include talking about the things that matter most to both of you – such as hopes for the future and the things that make you happiest – as well as complimenting each other, laughing often, and exploring new interests and hobbies.

Take care of each other

When it comes to sex, one of the biggest differences between men and women has to do with the “elusive” female orgasm. Ladies don’t just take a while to become aroused but almost always take longer to climax, if they do at all.

But that’s okay though. Making sure that you’re emotionally connected can do wonders for your orgasm odds, as can a whole lot of healthy exploration between the sheets, determining what works and what doesn’t. Oftentimes, a longer session is all it takes.

Dare to be different

When you consider that variety is the spice of life, it stands to reason that your differences can truly make your relationship and times of intimacy hotter than ever. The key is to stay open-minded, understanding and committed to working through any issues if and when they arise. Ultimately, you may even come to realize that while having a lot in common is great, it’s the ways you contrast and complement each other that ensure the excitement never ends.

Summarizing the Differences in Sexuality Between Genders

In conclusion, gender and sexuality profoundly influence relationships. Despite societal progress, distinct differences remain. However, embracing these disparities can enhance your bond. Synchronize sex drives, prioritize foreplay, and explore lubricants to bridge arousal gaps.

Cultivate emotional intimacy through meaningful conversations, compliments, laughter, and shared experiences. Nurture the elusive female orgasm by prioritizing emotional connection and healthy exploration.

Embracing the differences between female and male sexuality can ensure lasting passion. Stay open-minded, understanding, and committed. Contrasting and complementing qualities ensure an exciting relationship.

References

• Testosterone and sexual desire in healthy women and men National Library of Medicine
  
  
• Emotional Accessibility Is More Important Than Sexual Accessibility in Evaluating Romantic Relationships – Especially for Women: A Conjoint Analysis National Library of Medicine

About the Author

Alexa Joy Sherman is a journalist and editor who has contributed to national magazines including "Family Circle," "Fit Pregnancy," "Fitness," "Parents," "Woman's Day" and "Women's Health." She is also the published co-author of two nonfiction books for adults, as well as the author of a fiction series for teens.